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as i was walking in this morning, i noticed a neighbor's morning edition with a headline reading "episcopal OKs gay unions".
why is it that americans keep voting down or overturning state legislation on gay unions?
why is it that the churches keep handing down dictates promoting gay unions?
some folks want us to remain (or rediscover) a christian nation while others want us to forge ahead into a post-christian nation. many berate the church for being closed-minded. the church and christians are blamed when their agenda fails. and yet, it seems to be the denominations that are joining support of the issues. is this paradox? irony? is it symptom of fighting the wrong battles?
i wonder what God thinks about the way we treat other people and the way we try to understand His defintion of love.